The Secret to True Communication

J.E. McNeil prides herself on her ability to bridge the regional, cultural, and political divides in the United States—the ability, as she puts it, to speak both NASCAR and NPR. So she created a program that teaches others how to communicate with people of different ideological persuasions. As she says, “You can’t start persuading people until you’re actually communicating.”

Her biggest piece of advice? “The most effective thing you can do in communication with others is to listen,” she explains.

7 thoughts on “The Secret to True Communication

  1. JE is always worth listening to, and this one is exceptional. We also just used her QS on vocal ministry and found it very helpful. Keep these coming please.

  2. I have been thinking of the (few) times that I have managed to just listen and hear what is being said and ask questions to really understand where the beliefs/perspectives are coming from. Invariably, it has happened with people I truly love. I guess then that there is more love needed. thanks for that

  3. I love this message and am writing because I’m wondering if you would be willing to correct the transcript! I was drawn to this talk because I saw this quote attributed to Ms. McNeil: “…not to listen in order to come up with what I think is the incredibly passive aggressive system of nonviolent communication.” As a student of non-violent communication, I was troubled by this description of it as a “passive aggressive system”. Ms. McNeil doesn’t actually say this. What she says is: “….not to listen in order to come up with what I think is AN incredibly passive agressive…”

    This might seem like a small correction, but it made a huge difference to me when I listened to her talk and realized she did not seem to be intending to categorize NVC as a passive agressive system.

    Thanks for considering my request!

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