Advice for White Men

Niyonu Spann, founder of Beyond Diversity 101, talks about her idea of heaven and how she invites everyone (including white men) to fully bring it.

Jon Watts

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8 thoughts on “Advice for White Men

  1. Thank you Niyonu! You advice is heard and accepted. And your compassion for and understanding of the challenges for white men so very much appreciated. In the Light, John

  2. Woot wooooot from one of the white middle class women that Niyonu refers to. This is one of the best things I’ve heard/seen ever. Yes, I too feel I need to bring it, and to hold the space for others to bring it. Fully. I’m not as bold as Niyonu, but I am feeling this message! The kingdom of god/spirit is that kind of place. Thank you.

  3. We need to get to the time when a person can just be a person, and not a representative of the category of White Male, carrying all the baggage of centuries of people he has no connection to. To view people by race and gender is racist and sexist. Glad to hear a voice that’s working towards that time.

  4. Easy to translate this to a lot of parts of my life. As a manager, I can’t be the best CEO that I can be until everyone on our staff feels comfortable and safe to bring their true selves fully to the workplace and to the process of creating the best community/organization that we can be — as a wife and mother, as a friend and as a Friend…

  5. Niyonu has a way of observing the culture of a place and seeing how it includes or alienates people who find themselves in it. She also has a way of listening deeply and then speaking the truth which she has heard. Thanks, Niyonu, for naming what so often goes unnamed! It just struck me that this interview is provocative enough that it would be worthy of another video — perhaps with a panel of respondents, including Niyonu, discussing together what she has raised!

  6. I guess I just don’t understand Spann’s juxtaposition between acting “humble” and acting “full up”/”bring it.” Is she saying that white men can’t be themselves, full up, AND listen with humility when a woman in their lives talks about gender dynamics? That women, by expressing themselves and airing their own hurts, are preventing men from being their whole selves? If so, I very much disagree and think this is a toxic way to think about both gender and social justice work. Maybe I’m misinterpreting her though?

  7. As a 76 year old woman who has witnessed the beginnings of a liberation of women for the past 50 some years, I applaud Niyonu’s take on what it has done to white men. As we women have become stronger and more whole, the white men have frequently been left behind. Her approach has the potential to begin freeing them as well.

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